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ajacsWow, I found a draft from the last time I thought "hey, I should post something to dreamwidth". Despite being a year old, It is surprisingly apt. I will simply edit in place.
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During the last few months, asglynhogen has been out of work again, I can see how incredibly easy it is to sink into a breadwinner/homemaker dynamic.
glynhogen has increased the amount of time she spends doing domestic work, including child-care; K (4th 5th grade) and T (Kindergarten 1st grade) have not gone to after-school care this academic year school at all for the last several months, for example. That has decreased the burden on me, as walking to the bus stop and back is significantly less time than driving to after-care and back as nobody ever needs to be picked up from anythingand school-lunch-packing
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Obviously the isolation has been tough on K and T, but in different ways. K is MUCH more social, and playing Roblox while on Discord with a very small group of friends a few times a week only takes us so far. She also is uncomfortable with much of video conferencing, especially if there's an unfamiliar person, so she's been skipping the chats with her girl scout troop because some of them were joint with other troops and once she was the only one from her own troop. Trying to figure out exactly which ones will be mostly or all people she knows, and forcing her to do just those, has generally taken more spell slots than I've had available and I have not done as much as I should.
T never really had much homework, so he has a hard time thinking of this as anything but a break during which we inexplicably force him to do school-like work. We've experimented with a rigid schedule (he did not like it), a to-do list with no specific times (he liked it as long as we didn't actually enforce it, which defeats the purpose), and now with some kind of in-between where we enforce specific slots where he can do whatever he wants off his to-do list. That's not going well either. He just wants to be able to play Roblox and watch youtube videos about Roblox all day without being made to do homework, or to eat, or especially to sleep.
I'm a bit surprised how unbothered I am by the isolation. I worked 100% remotely from about 2001- 2009, but I would go stir-crazy if I didn't get out and see people at least a few times a week. For the last few years I've been working in the office Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and remotely Tuesdays and Thursdays. I expected to really miss seeing people who are not in my immediate family. But every day is Tuesday now, and I don't find myself begging to be the one who picks up the pizza or the groceries.
My employer has been awesome about accommodating everyone and their crazy schedules, and my job is not currently in danger despite the literal millions of dollars we lost on our annual meeting this year (we canceled before L.A. declared whatever state of emergency would have provided force majeur protection). Our CEO is an infectious disease specialist so we're not going to be reopening the office any time soon. I also learned recently that Dr. Anthony Fauci is one of our members, so there's that.
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During the last few months, as
glynhogen has been out of work again, I can see how incredibly easy it is to sink into a breadwinner/homemaker dynamic.glynhogen has increased the amount of time she spends doing domestic work, including child-care; K (END OLD POST
Obviously the isolation has been tough on K and T, but in different ways. K is MUCH more social, and playing Roblox while on Discord with a very small group of friends a few times a week only takes us so far. She also is uncomfortable with much of video conferencing, especially if there's an unfamiliar person, so she's been skipping the chats with her girl scout troop because some of them were joint with other troops and once she was the only one from her own troop. Trying to figure out exactly which ones will be mostly or all people she knows, and forcing her to do just those, has generally taken more spell slots than I've had available and I have not done as much as I should.
T never really had much homework, so he has a hard time thinking of this as anything but a break during which we inexplicably force him to do school-like work. We've experimented with a rigid schedule (he did not like it), a to-do list with no specific times (he liked it as long as we didn't actually enforce it, which defeats the purpose), and now with some kind of in-between where we enforce specific slots where he can do whatever he wants off his to-do list. That's not going well either. He just wants to be able to play Roblox and watch youtube videos about Roblox all day without being made to do homework, or to eat, or especially to sleep.
I'm a bit surprised how unbothered I am by the isolation. I worked 100% remotely from about 2001- 2009, but I would go stir-crazy if I didn't get out and see people at least a few times a week. For the last few years I've been working in the office Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and remotely Tuesdays and Thursdays. I expected to really miss seeing people who are not in my immediate family. But every day is Tuesday now, and I don't find myself begging to be the one who picks up the pizza or the groceries.
My employer has been awesome about accommodating everyone and their crazy schedules, and my job is not currently in danger despite the literal millions of dollars we lost on our annual meeting this year (we canceled before L.A. declared whatever state of emergency would have provided force majeur protection). Our CEO is an infectious disease specialist so we're not going to be reopening the office any time soon. I also learned recently that Dr. Anthony Fauci is one of our members, so there's that.
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Date: 2020-05-05 09:48 pm (UTC)